Who gets asked to dance

Discussion in 'General Dance Discussion' started by suburbaknght, Dec 9, 2007.

  1. suburbaknght

    suburbaknght Well-Known Member

    I was at a ballroom event on Saturday, hosted by a University team but with more than two thirds of those in attendance from outside the school, and I noticed that despite the many, many women available to dance, across all levels of age, attractiveness, and skill level, the ones who were repeatedly being asked to dance were the women in red dresses. They were followed by the women in other colors. Women who wore black were dead last. I've paid attention to the patterns of being asked to dance before, and have even written about it, but this is the first time I was aware of it being so closely tied to couture. Has anyone else seen this pattern? Women, all other factors being equal, do you find you are more likely to be asked to dance if you wear a certain color?
  2. wooh

    wooh Well-Known Member

    Never noticed color, but wearing a skirt seems to make a difference.
  3. waltzgirl

    waltzgirl New Member

    I've never noticed any correlation between clothing color and being asked to dance. But if it exists, I suspect it has more to do with the personality, confidence level, etc. of the women who choose to wear bright colors. And of course, black is often the preferred color of women who feel they could be slimmer.

    I agree that wearing a skirt does make a difference.
  4. tsb

    tsb Well-Known Member

    i suspect other pertinent factors come into play, but the only question i'll ask is:

    who did *you* ask to dance?
  5. MissBallroomBear

    MissBallroomBear Active Member

    I suppose black is a very intimidating colour. Black isn't only worn by women of larger sizes. I dress in black most of the time and while I'm not drop dead thin, I'm definitely not overweight.
    I've never noticed red being the colour that attracts guys the most. It might be worth a little experimentation..
  6. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    it is possible...in dim lighting black doesn't stand out...which is why many of us also don't compete in it...and men are known to be visual creatures...my husband doesn't care for black at all, b/c it is all he sees women in all day long working downtown...I of course love to wear black, but I rarely wear it around him...I think it makes some sense but probably not on a conscious level...i.e guy scans room looking for woman with whom to dance and brighter color catches his eye, but I doubt he would recognize that as party of the process ...more likely color catches his I and he thinks, "oh there is X person (minus any prominent negative)...I will ask her"
  7. Peaches

    Peaches Well-Known Member

    Is that, then, a positive?
  8. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    depends upon the size of the guy's dance goggles I spose
  9. Not scientific by any means, but I was one of two newbies at my studio's weekly dance. Everyone else there were regulars who would consistently dance with each other. I wore a dressy bright red top and black slacks, and the other newbie wore a leopard print top and cream-colored pants.

    The other dancer was picked to dance practically every song, including men interrupting conversations I was having with her to ask her to dance with them. She was asked to dance a number of times by the same men (this dance was the day after Thanksgiving, so attendance was small and it was easier for me to observe these things). Though I was asked to dance once by some of the guys there, I think only one asked me for a second dance. I sat out many of the songs until one of the newbie leads decided that I would be his partner for the rest of the night and continued to ask me to dance for every song we both knew how to dance to.

    Red may get me in the door, but I'm certain many other factors determine whether or not I get asked a second time. For example, although she was new to every other dance, she took a year of tango lessons. I'd imagine that made it easier for her to follow a guy's lead even with a dance she wasn't as familiar with. At the time I'd only taken lessons for two months. I would imagine experience (or lack thereof), played a role in that.

    That said, I'm pretty sure I'll be attending my studio's winter gala this Friday and I'll be sure to wear a red dress. I'll let you know how it goes.
  10. Purr

    Purr Well-Known Member

    I think so. Wearing something a bright and cheerful color helps. Wearing a dress or wearing a nice top with matching skirt helps, too. Putting a little effort into looking nice, i.e. hairstyle, makeup, jewelry, also helps. Above all, looking approachable and having a smile on your face helps.
  11. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    leopard print is a color that IMO, trumps most colors....uh...yea...nuff said
  12. What if I wore red leopard print? :shock:
  13. Sagitta

    Sagitta Well-Known Member

    Oh man!


    If it is a dress /skirt that swirls when I give the lady a turn...? Definitely. I just like seeing that...always have...
  14. Ron Obvious

    Ron Obvious New Member

    I don't think the colour of the dress is important at all, not consciously at least. Posture is much more important, and the friendliness in the look. Do you women think you're more likely to accept dances from a man in black trousers or in bright-blue denim jeans?

    And technically, black is not a colour, it's the absence of colours.
  15. suburbaknght

    suburbaknght Well-Known Member

    Given that I was there from 5:30 to midnight I danced with pretty much everyone, young and old, petite and heavy set, experienced and first time, dressed in black and colors. That said, I found that I danced more with women dressed in color, and particularly red, although there were more women dressed in black; while escorting someone on or off the floor or sitting out a dance I don't care for (salsa and samba for the record) or one I'm not socially comfortable with yet (quickstep and Viennese for the record) I watched the floor and my eyes are naturally drawn towards color. That would lead to a mental note to "ask that cute girl in the red dress to dance," or "that woman in blue sure can turn! I bet she'd be fun to swing with. I should ask her next time a swing comes on."
  16. danceronice

    danceronice Well-Known Member

    I've found that when I wear my skirts that really seriously flare out, I get asked to dance more often and with more repeats, including some of the male pros. Of course I also get spun 'til I'm dizzy, so this may be a double-edged sword.

    For our winter semi-formal, I wore a dress in a color I basically never wear (a pink, with blue undertones as that's the only variant on pink I can wear) instead of my normal black/darks and I was still getting compliments a week later. I think especially in dim lights, bright colors are definitely the way to go...
  17. Peaches

    Peaches Well-Known Member

    Yup...skirts that flare out = getting spun LOTS...IME. Vaguely annoying, since I don't spin or spot well. Good thing I rarely wear twirly skirts.

    Haven't noticed a color difference. Dress v/ pants difference, possibly. Sexy v/ conservative, definitely. Still usually wear jeans, or at least pants, though.

    Biggest difference seems to be how many people I know at a given venue.
  18. Ron Obvious

    Ron Obvious New Member

    Last time out I wore a tail-coat, it was a special independence-day party and we were told we could dress up. I certainly received many compliments and confused looks from many women, but no-one actually asked me to dance. Maybe because it's black, the tail-coat. Next time I'll try to wear a red one and see if it makes a difference.
  19. bordertangoman

    bordertangoman Well-Known Member

    Vell, I take ze scientific approach; I verk anticlockvise around ze room; ladies zat dance nicely that I see vatching, get more points as do ladies I know. also I use a random generator; like some days I will dance only mit ladies mit blue eyes; or who have dark hair, zey also get more points if zey are Russian or Polish.
  20. etp777

    etp777 Active Member


    One pro I know juts had mom make her a pink leopard print costume. Didn't get to see it stoned before I left, but even without stones hanging on a hangar it popped. Course, not sure if it popped in a good way, would have to see it on her. :) Was "interesting" though.

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