Newbie kizomba dancer here, please bare with me. Ok, so I have this problem. I respect other people's will far too much. When I lead tend to hold back a lot my strength when it comes to """push women around""". It feels disrespectful otherwise. My question is, let's suppose that I'm performing my moves properly, am I suppose to apply a bit deal of strength to the lady dancers? Also, some women stick very close to me while others do not. In kizomba am I supposed to get very close to my partner? And if so, should I go very close to the woman if the woman does not had the innitiative to do that in the first place? Lastly, sometimes I have a hard time feeling the music, indeed most of the time I would be perfectly ok if the music wasn't there. Is that normal?