I wish I had discovered ballroom dance earlier in my life. In my late 20s and early 30s, I spent a great deal of time with my guy friends drinking and going to bars and occasionally clubs. Back when they were all single, they basically used me in order to have someone to go to bars with so they can meet girls. I fell victim to it because I genuinely loved drinking. I started drinking late in life. I didn't really discover alcohol till I was 25 or so. I know that's late but that's another story. I pretty much became an alcoholic. I never really became fat but I had this bloated look. Even though I put effort into exercise, it was inconsistent and the alcohol just cancelled any effort on that front. I also wasn't having any success with the ladies at the bars and clubs. I couldn't figure out why my friends were having more success than me. They didn't dance either. I seemed to be doing the same things they did but I never had any luck. Women in bars and clubs are standoffish and always seemed to be hanging out with the douchebags. The few good women were just interested in hanging out with their impenetrable circle of friends. In the odd few attempts where I did manage to strike up a conversation with a girl and get her number, we never ended up dating. In fact, one girl I got the number of, I invited her out one time and she ended up hooking up with one of my friends. Now that I think back, maybe it was no surprise. Even though I was a good guy with a successful career with a decent social life, I had no real passions except for drinking. My life basically consisted of me looking forward to the friday and saturday nights where I can go drink with friends at the pub. That was it. Over time, one by one my friends got married or into serious relationships. The final straw for me was when a relationship with this girl didn't work out. I was grasping at straws at that point because truthfully, I was never that into this girl but when you've never had much success with dating, you tend to settle for the first girl who shows interest. That's what I did and when things didn't work out with her, I was in a very, very dark place. To make matters worse, I was laid off by my company after successfully completing a challenging project. Even though the layoff had nothing to do with my performance and I wasn't the only one impacted, I felt betrayed. Basically all of this happened in 2016, a very dark year for me. This sparked off a period of introspection and re-evaluation. And that's when I revisited my natural interests in dance and music. These hobbies involve much more supportive environments where everyone is friendlier. I'm not in it for the purpose of hooking up. If I meet someone along the way, great but I'm in it for my own artistic journey. What's more. It's just a more pleasant environment to involve oneself even without the purpose of "hooking up." For instance, attending a social dance evening. There are women than men. The women there have bright attitudes and want to dance. Even if you suck, they appreciate the effort. You contrast this experience at a typical bar and club where the women are standoffish, arrogant, and even downright rude. The biggest thing is the cost. Even though attending dance school is expensive, I think I spent the same amount of money going out in my late 20s. I not only drank a lot on a given night and had to pay for drinks myself but also had to pay at times for friends and girls I was interested in. One night out could easily cost me $100 and I went out 1-2 times per week. That's easily how much I spend at my dance school except instead of getting a supportive environment, all I really got were hostility and rejection which damaged my self-confidence. If I'm not gonna hook up with any ladies, I'd at the very least rather get friendly vibes from them and dance with them any day.